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EHarmony vs Match Functionality Winner: Match is better than eHarmony when it comes to overall functionality. The ability to use all those advanced search filters and dive into the entire Match database is worth its weight in gold. Currently, eHarmony is finding daily matches for its million users in over 150 countries whereas Match is in 25. Regarding the market in the United States, eHarmony claims about 14% of the online dating platforms whereas Match claims 24%. Match.com has the highest percentage of second dates compared to all the dating platforms online.

• eHarmony Review: Why eHarmony is better than Match & okCupid
• Learn how to message women on eHarmony & have a date by this weekend.
• Downloadable Templates that improve responses by 800%
• See clear examples.
• The latest eHarmony discount promo code – 2015

eHarmony is perfectly suited for Men of any age who:

► Are Getting back into the dating scene after a long relationship
► Or want to start dating more attractive women
► Live in the either the United States, Canada, United Kingdom or Australia

eHarmony vs Match: Fight!

eHarmony did not start out as my favorite dating site.

But I’m in the middle of my 150 Date Challenge now and more than half of all my dates come from eHarmony and I’ve grown to really like it.

Don’t get me wrong, both Match & okcupid are good and I use both but the results I’ve been getting on eHarmony are better and many eDatingDoc Academy students are having the same experience.

HOWEVER, if you don’t use the site properly, you’ll get crappy results.

Ahhhh, but have no fear.

Below, I’ve compiled all of my eHarmony specific secrets & best practices for you to use. The devil is in the details so be sure to pay close attention.

eHarmony Review: Why is eHarmony so good?

1. Quality of Women
2. Lack of Competition

I skeptically joined eHarmony thinking it wouldn’t be very good. I read over & over again that eHarmony was a waste of time from several different PUA’s (that’s pick-up artists) This consistent low view of eHarmony in the PUA community is exactly what I think has made it so good. The douche PUA guys don’t recommend it, so the PUA minions don’t flock to it, so there is less competition and the guys that do join are just regular guys (not PUA’s) that lack online dating training. So when my academy students join they dominate the website and easily meet the women they are most interested in. On top of that the women only receive a small number of matches per day so they literally can’t be bombarded by messages like they are on other dating sites.

Ok, Let’s get started with the eHarmony specific details:

Lesson #1: Making first contact:
eHarmony Email Tips

There are a few ways to make contact on eHarmony but you’ll only use two of them.

1. Quick Questions (This begins the guided communication)
2. eH Mail (This skips the guided communication)
3. Send a smile (Never use this)
4. Secure Call (Never use this)

1. When to use the eHarmony guided communication quick questions:

Start with the quick questions if the girl is somewhat close to your “league”.

2. When to skip & go straight to eH Mail:

Go straight to eH Mail contact option if she is a way outside of your “league” or you are REALLY interested in her.

Note:
You know, how we give women a number, like “WHOAH!She’s a solid 10 baby!” In person, you may be a 8 or 9 but if you haven’t been through the eDatingDoc Academy then your “online number” is probably much lower. A good sign is if you are not getting responses from the women that you know would like you in person. If this is happening to you, there is a 100% chance you are doing something wrong so check this out after reading this guide.

How to use the Quick Questions with Examples

After you send your quick-questions, she’ll respond and ask you 5 quick questions in return.

You could select the multiple choice answers like most guys do.

And you could pack your bags and call it a day.

Because that’s why most guys fail – doing what every other guy does…

Here’s what to do instead. (This is powerful so don’t disregard it)

ALWAYS CHOOSE“Write your own response” (examples below)

This works SO well yet is so simple.

Always write out awesome responses.

I know, I know

This would take a ton of time if you have to write out a great response every time but you only need to write an awesome response once.

Then save it to a word document so you can cut & paste that answer when the question is asked again by another girl, and it will be asked again.

And to make it even easier for you.

I created that word document for you. Here is The eDatingDoc Quick-Response Blueprint for eHarmony with the top questions women ask and example answers.

You can use the examples as a guide but definitely add responses that are authentic, true to your life & personality. Here are the examples in the download.

eHarmony Quick Questions & Answer Examples

If you were taken by your date to a party where you knew no one, how would you respond?
►Start twerking and wait for the ladies to crowd around, oh yeah! (or not)

On Saturday night, would you rather go to:
►I like to change it up but I’m going Downtown for the Big Brothers Big Sisters charity event with some friends this Saturday. (It’s a great cause – do good while having fun!)

Would you rather date someone who is:
►So damn amazing that every time you walk away I make a fist, reach up in the sky and say LORD help me! Then lean over to whoever is around and say, “Yup – I’m dating her”.

Which sort of date sounds like the most fun to you?
►A comedy club sounds like a good idea. You know what makes the comedians even funnier?

When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need?
►I think personal space and having one’s own time is important to making any relationship work.

If I had a bad day, what is the first thing you would do for me?
►I’d say awww baby, give you a big hug and kisses then do the sexy man shuffle in my speedos (Surprise!)

Your idea of a romantic time would be:
►A wine and Vosges chocolate picnic at the park in the evening.

Your idea of adventure is:
►Finding a hidden pirate ship in a cave 🙂

Which of the following quirks would bother you most about your partner?
►Squeezing the toothpaste from the middle so it looks like it was attacked by a monkey.
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Remember to be balanced!

As you can see, some of my answers are playful while others are straight forward. I can’t emphasize this enough! If you’re too playful your results will tank because she’ll think you’re childish. If you’re too serious, you’re results will tank because she’ll think you take life too seriously and can’t have fun!

Advanced Tip:
Have a conversation within the quick-question response area to build more of a connection.

Here’s an example of what I mean:

Her interesting response to one of the quick-questions:

So when she sends me her quick questions, I made one response into a mini conversation by mentioning what she just wrote.

This builds more of a connection and makes the guided communication process even more interesting.

Making you the Most Interesting Man in the World… well at least on eHarmony.

Lesson #2: – eHarmony Makes or Breaks

The next step in the guided communication is the Makes or Breaks.

Not a big deal right?

el Wrong-o!

Pay attention because these can communicate a lot about you.

Especially the Breaks.

For example, I’ve seen guys select these breaks:

What does this communicate to the girl?

That you’ve probably been cheated on, you have trust issues because you were cheated on, there was probably a reason you were cheated on and she doesn’t want to waste her time finding out why you were cheated on….

The best breaks to select are centered around the type of person she is internally not how she is with others.

There are a few exceptions.

Lesson #3: – eHarmony Dig Deeper Questions

This is the final step of the guided communication before you make it to eH mail.

Difference Between Match And Eharmony

You must type out your response to these questions.

Time to shine.

Most guys reply with boring answers at every step that scream “I’m lazy and I’m boring!”

But you?

Hell to the NO!

Your answers will sometimes be silly… sometimes be intelligent and informative but never DULL & LAZY.

And just like the quick questions, save your responses (to the eDatingDoc eHarmony Quick-Response Blueprint) so you can just cut & paste that answer when the same question is asked again by another girl. And like I said before, it will be asked again.

To make that easier & clearer, I listed the top Dig Deeper questions women ask and included example answers to each of these.

If you didn’t download it earlier, click here to get it..

eHarmony Dig Deeper Questions & eHarmony Response Examples

Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?
►Run around and knock a bunch of shit off all the shelves at Walmart while it’s really busy and yell “Whoaaaaaaa Yeaaahhhhhhhh.”

What do you think are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?
►A sexy sexy beast, laid back & logical. An example of my superior logic: Mom says, “Alcohol is your enemy.” Jesus says, “Love your enemy.” Case closed.

What is the most adventures thing you’ve done in the past year?
►I drove across Europe for 2 months checking out 11 countries. Awesome experience! Had a beer at the same bar the character Robin Hood was based on drank at in the year 1100. Pretty cool.

What are you looking for in a relationship partner?
►You have depth and a good heart, You don’t get your happiness through material possessions, not to get too mushy but someone that’s affectionate, you’re balanced so enjoy nights out.

They say life is about simple pleasures, what is your simplest pleasure, and how does it make you feel?
►Playing basketball with friends – It’s this physical thing to push myself until I’m destroyed and I sleep like a baby and wake up rejuvenated. That and perfect Apple Pie.

What is the best thing an ex could say about you?
►That I changed her life for the better.

If they were making a movie about your life, what would it be called and which actor would play you?
►It would be called “I’ve never done that – Let’s do it!” of course it would be played by Brad Pitt.

Describe your parents’ relationship with each other.
►They have an amazing relationship: My mom recently convinced my Dad to change the horn on the car so it makes gunshot sounds. People move out of the way much faster now.[/fu]

Lesson #4: – eHarmony Mail

I’m throwing in a secret right now for the guys that were not lazy and actually read this far.

I call this step “Squash the Slackers”

I recommend combining the previous step with this step every single time.

So instead of sending the girl your 3 Dig Deeper questions within the normal eHarmony process. You instead skip to the eHarmony mail and send those same questions. (Example email below)

Women are very interested in your answers to their 3 questions. So you’re still answering them but you’re making it more interesting and doing something no other guy is doing. You’re also shortening the long process and making that first email come very easily. Now you don’t have to wonder how to start the conversation. This email does it for you.

Here is the sample eHarmony email to send when you skip this step:

Now you need to send the next few emails & get her phone number. This is where my 3×5 email system comes in. See item #2 in the quick-action homework below.

Your Quick-Action Homework for a great date
in less than 7 days on eHarmony:

1. Sign-up to eHarmony – Here is the special registration page where you can try it for free. If you use this guide you will want to continue the membership so use this (2015 Discount Promo Code : EHCODE12)
2. Follow this guide you just read when contacting the women you’re interested in & you’ll have a date with an amazing girl this week.

Membership

Members on eHarmony are typically looking for long-term relationships. To join, users must fill out a comprehensive questionnaire. eHarmony conducts all searches for its members – users don't have the option of searching or browsing profiles themselves. Members communicate through the website. eHarmony generates matches based on a compatibility test and profile criteria that members fill out. The site sends email alerts when new matches are found.

Members on Match are looking for dates, hook-ups and long-term relationships. Match leaves the search up to the individual members. New users create a profile and enter search criteria. The site matches them to other members based on these criteria. However, members also have the option of conducting searches on their own based on search filters. For communication, members may 'wink' at others, email or IM.

Profiles

eHarmony profiles include basics, such as age, height, hair color, eye color, body type and ethnicity. Profiles also include relationship history, whether the member has children, whether they smoke or drink and their location. Members may add up to 12 photos. Members also answer questions to show their personality, choose must-have values and choose activities and interests. eHarmony profiles also include information from their '29 Dimensions of Compatibility Test.' While the main site is not open to the LGBT population, eHarmony refers them to a companion site, Compatible Partners.

Match is open to the LGBT community. Match profiles include basics, such as age, height, hair color, eye color, body type and ethnicity. Profiles also include sexual orientation, relationship status, whether the member has children, whether they smoke or drink, and their location. Members write an open-ended essay about themselves and their match. Profiles may include interests, exercise habits, hobbies, political views, education, faith, background values, and whether the member has or even likes pets. Users may add up to 26 photos and even import photos from Facebook.

Communication restrictions

While it is free for new users on eHarmony to view their matches, they must sign up for one of the paid plans to initiate contact wtih other members. Members have the potential to decline a match, meaning all contact stops.

Match.com also offers free viewing of matches, but new users must sign up for a paid plan to email or IM other members. They may 'wink' at members, but even paying members may not contact them until they've signed up for a membership. Like eHarmony, Match allows members to block other members from contacting them.

Matching Algorithm

Eharmony Vs Match Comparison Chart

eHarmony uses what it calls '29 dimensions of compatibility' based on a compatibility test. The algorithm looks at core traits such as emotional temperament, social style, cognitive mode and physicality. It also looks at vital attributes such as relationship skills, values and beliefs and key experiences. eHarmony makes matches based on this compatibility test and profile criteria members fill out. The site sends email alerts when new matches are found.

Match also offers some services for matching but the search and browse features are more popular on Match.com. Members may conduct a quick search based on age, location, keywords found in profiles, photos and whether members are currently online. Their custom searches include many options, such as appearance, interests, background, values and lifestyle. Another feature is the Date Spark Search. Members come up with an idea for a date and search for others' date ideas. Match also has some other matching criteria:

• The Mutual Match algorithm is based on user profiles. Mutual Match ensures that both parties are looking for a specific type of person.
• Reverse Match shows results for members who are looking for someone who is like them.
• Synapse Matching is based on user personalities, preferences and on-site actions. Members receive five matches each day using Match's Synapse Matching algorithm.
• Match also has Singled Out Matches, that shows members someone who really stands out as a match for them.

Price and Operating Model

Both eHarmony and Match offer a number of pricing plans, and renewal is automatic. Members must cancel if they don't want to renew. With both, some members have complained of being auto-renewed even after canceling the membership.

eHarmony Pricing

eHarmony offers the most options for price and services with their Basic, Total Connect and Premium Plans. eHarmony members also have the option of purchasing a Basic Plan and adding other services. They can add other services to their subscription such as:

• Secure Call for $5.95/month: allows members to call their matches on the phone anonymously without revealing their own phone number.
• RelyID for $5.95/year: The RelyID badge on a member's profile indicates that eHarmony has verified his or her name, age and city of residence.
• Premier Personality Profile for a onetime fee of $19.99 and
• Profile Advisor for a onetime fee of $99.95.

Basic Plan

The Basic Plan offers full access to the dating website plus the 29-point compatibility matching. Its pricing structure:

• 1 Month: $59.95 per month.
• 3 Month: $29.95 per month; must be paid in one full payment of $89.85
• 6 Month: $29.90 per month; can be paid in 3 installments of $59.80 each, or $179.40 in full.
• 12 Month: $19.95 per month; can be paid in 3 installments of $79.80 each, or $239.40 in full.

Total Connect Plan

The Total Connect Plan offers the same services as the Basic Plan plus a deeper analysis of users' personalities, the Secure Call feature which allows anonymous phone calling and the Rely ID feature which verifies name, and age for purposes of honesty.

• 3 Month: $44.95 per month; can be paid in 3 installments of $44.95 each, or $134.85 in full.
• 6 Month: $33.90 per month; can be paid in 3 installments of $67.90 each, or $203.70 in full.
• 12 Month: $23.95 per month; can be paid in 3 installments of $95.80 each, or $287.40 in full.

Premier Plan

eHarmony's Premier Plan offers everything from the Total Connect Plan plus an 'Ultimate Guarantee' that if users don't find a match in first year, they get another year free. The Premier Plan also includes personalized help from a profile advisor. Premier Plans are for 12 months at $41.95 a month or a single payment of $503.40.

Match.com

Match offers two plans: Standard and Best Value.

Standard Plan

Standard Plan users can view members, contact members and read email from members. The Standard Plan costs $35.99 a month, $19.99 a month with a three-month commitment and $17.99 a month with a six-month commitment.

Best Value Plan

Match's Best Value Plan offers the same features as the Standard Plan, plus a highlighted profile and 'first impressions' services. The 6-month plan comes with the 'Match.com Guarantee,' meaning if users don't find someone in the first six months, the next six months are free. The Best Value Plan costs $23.99 a month with a three-month commitment and $19.99 a month with a six-month commitment.

Dating Categories Available

Both eHarmony and Match have several dating categories available. eHarmony allows users to specify according to the following within the site:

• Asian Dating
• Black Dating
• Christian Dating
• Senior Dating
• Jewish Dating
• Hispanic Dating
• Compatible Partners
• International Dating

In addition to offering Yahoo Personals and Match Personals to its members, Match allows users to specify according to the following categories:

• 50+ Dating
• Black Dating
• Single Parents
• Christian Dating
• Jewish Dating
• Asian Dating
• Gay Dating
• Lesbian Dating

Statistics

Both eHarmony and Match offer their own statistics. eHarmony promotes that its site is responsible for 5 percent of all U.S. marriages. Of couples who met on a dating site then married, 25 percent met on eHarmony. Of marriages that started on a dating site, 3.86 percent of eHarmony's result in divorce, the lowest percentage of all sites.

Match promotes that one date in 1,369 leads to marriage. Of couples who met on a dating site, 30 percent met on Match. 42% of the matches result in dates, and 35% of the matches result in relationships of three or more months.

Member Demographics

By Age

eHarmony has 15,500,000 members, 47% men and 53% women. Concerning age range, the members fall into the following demographics:

• 18 to 24 – 30%
• 25 to 34 – 18%
• 35 to 44 – 20%
• 45 to 54 – 18%
• Over 55 – 14%

Match has 21,575,000 members, 49% men and 51% women. Concerning age range, the members fall into the following demographics:

• 18 to 24 – 16%
• 25 to 34 – 22%
• 35 to 44 – 27%
• 45 to 54 – 21%
• Over 55 – 14%

By Ethnicity

eHarmony members come from all 50 states and 150 countries. Concerning ethnicity, they fall into the following demographics:

• Asian – 5%
• African American – 9%
• Caucasian (white) – 77%
• Hispanic/Latino – 8%
• Other – 1%

Match members come from all 50 states and from 60 countries. The ethnicity demographics:

• Asian – 4%
• African American – 9%
• Caucasian (white) – 77%
• Hispanic/Latino – 9%
• Other – 1%

By Education

40% of eHarmony members have a high school diploma, 45% graduated with a bachelor's degree, and 15% have a graduate degree.

41% of Match.com members have high school diplomas, 42% have bachelor's degrees and 17% have graduate degrees.

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